I had a friend who constantly said to me, “But Buba, you love yourself.” They’d give me that comment when I did little things that enhanced my life—like going to the spa or wearing eyelashes on a random Tuesday.
This person was definitely being sarcastic. Even though I didn’t care, I often found myself confused as to why my self-care habits felt alienating to them.
Of course, I loved myself. Why wouldn’t I? What kind of person doesn’t love themselves?
Self-confidence has been a constant throughout my life. One could say it’s because I grew up around a lot of love. My parents were very reassuring and encouraging. I was a chubby kid with short hair and yet, I don’t recall ever feeling less than—not in looks, possessions, or smarts.
As I grow older and step out of my comfort zone to meet people, I hate to say this, but you’ll be surprised how little, people think of themselves. A simple compliment will quickly be deflected with self-devaluing remarks. Tell someone they look lovely in a dress and they’ll instantly mention that it’s an old cheap clothing they’ve owned for ages. Compliment their physique, and they’ll count all their stretch-marks for you. Why not see the light in yourself? If you don’t see it, who will?
So, this year I challenge you. I challenge you to love yourself. To see the beauty, not the flaws. To celebrate the wins and not mope the losses. Learn to choose yourself always. When you do, you’ll make decisions that favor your wellbeing, and that’s a powerful, positive way to live.