Looking back on what a vibrant year 2015 has been…did I say vibrant, I meant crazy. Child, I went from 100 to zero to negatives to 70 and concluded the year a strong 80 (Praise God?). While reading some blogs last year, I came across a relationship expert who said, rather than asking the person you’re dating why they broke up with their ex, ask them what their past relationships have taught them.
So here I am, telling you what 2015 taught me.

1. Friendship works both ways. Some people don’t deserve your kindness

You can’t keep giving and giving…and giving, to someone that never thinks of you. Any relationship that is all about one person giving and the other taking cannot be healthy. Let that person go, even if you have known them for a while. It’s not worth it. If they can’t see your value, if they can’t appreciate and respect it, they don’t deserve your kindness, they don’t deserve you having their back.

2. Make New Friends

Old friends are great, but how beautiful is the idea of creating new memories, with new lovely people. It’s like meeting the sister you never had, like starting to read a new and exciting book.

3. Give it your all, so if it doesn’t work out, you never have to wonder

Have you ever looked back on a relationship and wondered whether things would have been different if you had been a little more patient, a little more understanding, maybe forgiving? Never give up on a relationship so easily, so quickly. Try to the point that when you walk away, you will know that you left no stone unturned, you did all you could, and that you will never look back.

4. Its okay to be sad

Sadness doesn’t make you appear weak; sadness makes you appear realistic.

5. We are all crazy bitches in one way or the other.

Believe me, you are not alone, we have all acted in ways that make us question our sanity. My heart goes out to the boyfriends/husbands who month after month, fall victim to PMS-ing partners and don’t even get told that at the time of the attack it was mother-nature talking.

6. Don’t care what people think, But care how they’ll feel

You might have to drop some people on your way up. Loose them because they are negative. Don’t loose them because you are negative.

7. Fall in love with someone who makes you feel wanted

It’s lots of ladies, cutting men too much damn slack. Not this year.

8. You are not your mistakes, unless they are too many.

Don’t beat yourself up, every time you mess up. But learn from your mistakes so you can stop messing up so much.

9. Your plan, your goals

Live your life with your destination in mind. Do things that are going to take you to the next level. Yes, live in the moment, but know where you are and where you’re headed. Put your wildest dreams out there, then set realistic goals to take you to them.

10. Life has an interesting way of working itself out

Sometimes you loose stuff to make space for new stuff. Have you ever held onto something so tightly and were forced to let go, only to find out later in life, that you are in a better place without it? Whether it’s a relationship, or a career, sometimes you’ve got to let go, and watch life work out its magic for you.

Hoping 2016 will go easy on you…

As always, thank you for loving my blog, or accidentally bumping into it…whichever way you got here, I love you for reading.

B.