I hear about my confidence, a lot. Majority of the time, I shrug it off because to me, I’m just being me. I don’t wake up in the morning telling myself to be confident, I just live my life the best way I can, and I guess that shit shines through.

So, I thought about a few things I do that might give off confidence vibes. Who knows, maybe you could add one of them to your life routine.

1. I Love Me

I say this in the most unapologetic way. I never look at anyone else and think, “I wish I looked like them.” I do appreciate other people’s beauty, but never at the cost of diminishing mine. Love yourself in the now, you’re all you have and if you can’t see that beauty in yourself, you’re going to have tough luck convincing other people to see it in you.

2. Mood builders

I have days when I feel like shit. But that’s what makeup is for. Applying makeup is not just therapeutic, the concept of looking put together lifts my mood when I’m not feeling like my best self. Note: Replace makeup with something that instantly lifts your mood…keyword, “Instantly.”

3. Everyone has shit going on in their lives

Y’all, all our asses are pretending to be something we are not on social media, and that’s okay. Keeping parts of your life private is absolutely fine. People might lack confidence because they feel like their particular struggles make them less than. We all have events happening in our lives that we may not particularly be proud of. I have shit going on that I wouldn’t want you to know about, and you have shit going on that you wouldn’t want me to know about. So, relax, we all have mess.

4. You’re one of a kind, never downplay yourself

I’ve always considered myself more of an artsy person…a creator, and yet I spent 9 years of my life in pharmacy school, surrounded by science heads. Pharmacy school was a major confidence killer because I always felt like I didn’t belong. I remember feeling numb many times. Halfway through, I took off for a year, and spent it doing the one thing I love the most…writing. To this day, that’s one of the best things I have ever done for myself.

Doing something I was good at, reminded me that I had value, and when I went back for my final two years, my self-esteem around my classmates was better. More than anything, I understood and accepted that I wasn’t a natural-born scientist, therefore my experience would be more challenging. It also made me commend myself, because in spite of my challenge, I made it. The lesson here is to constantly engage in things you love and are good at. They remind you that you have value.  

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