Friends that are financially stable are just so much easier to be around. If you don’t have any rich friends, get this. Life is more peaceful when you have some rich friends. Go get you some rich friends! Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not out here to hate on my ‘Buddies on a Budget’. Life is generally brighter when you hang around some ‘High Rollers’.
First, you feel financially and socially challenged, which makes you want to better yourself. Second, rich friends know a lot of the ‘Big Dogs’ and that just might be all the networking you need to get you a real job. Third, Rich friends are always up for the fun…on short notice! They don’t require four jobs to maintain a decent lifestyle and you don’t have to ask them for a lunch date…three weeks in advance. They never say no or I cant, they are YES people!
Take for example a former friend of mine who was not so long ago downgraded to an acquaintance. She called in the middle of the week talking about wanting to ‘let loose this weekend’, and how she needed to ‘relax and release her mind’. Now at this point in time, she was already an acquaintance. This is why. I love hanging out with everyone. Unfortunately, I am a bit shy and somewhat antisocial. Bottom line, it’s not often that I invite friends to hang with me. I have to ‘know you like that.’ Plus I take disappointments to heart. You cancel on me three times in a row, that’s it! You’re off my list. I don’t care how closely related we are, You’re so off my list you’ll have to be someone’s plus one to attend my party. Every time this acquaintance cancelled on me, it was nothing serious like illness or an emergency. She always came up with weird stuff like having no energy to drive or spending time with her dog. All that mess made her come off as someone who didn’t really care and respect my company, so acquaintance it was.
She was not one to plan a night out and I wasn’t even thinking of leaving my house that weekend but I decided to be supportive and give her chance. So I call my other friend up, talk her into the party and Saturday was the night.
Saturday 10:45pm; Make up on, dress on, heels on, and my friend at my house, ready to leave. Hoping my acquaintance was probably on her way to my place, I call her to find out how close she is. People, this is the conversation we had. Lets call her Z.
Me: Hey are you about to get here?
Z: Get where?
Me: Girl…where are you?
Z: I just got home.
Me: You’re kidding me. You know you made plans?
Z: Ohhhh the club thing! Ahhh I’m feeling like movie night tonight so I’m going to stay in. Plus I went shopping so that was enough fun for me. But you guys can go ahead and enjoy the night.
Ok before I proceed let me say this. When I get really mad. I become realllly calm because anything after that could result into sudden death of another human.
Me: Oh Ok, Alright good night.
This Damn Bitch! First of all, I did not make these plans, I was being supportive!!! Second of all, she had picked a ‘Hood Club’(you know those clubs where you have to be FBI Surveillace on your purse all night cos there’s thugs everywhere), I was not expecting to have fun, I was only going to show off my outfit and sit pretty. Third and most important, I was already wearing my make up. Lets discuss the make up issue.
Dear Gentlemen and ladies who don’t wear make up; a lot of girls have a habit of cancelling at the last minute. But when a girl puts on her make up, that’s confirmation that she is going. Make up is a combination of like 25 different products. That stuff is expensive. So If I just took 20 minutes curving my face into shape, you bet am leaving my house. When it’s on, you are going for real. You have to go. So if someone cancels on you after you just made your face look like a million bucks, damn right I’m going to be mad at you.
So my friend and I decide to stay home because going was going to be a waste of our time and money. Not that I’m on a budget but women are highly favored on the club scene. Entrance is free for ladies and rocking red lipstick will get you free drinks. This chic did not feel any guilt to simply say, “ I’m sorry I cancelled on you guys”. Anyway, make up must never be left unseen, my girl and I decide to take pictures, post them on Instagram #partyTonight #MyPartyBetterThanYurrs #PourItUpPourItUp…(I know you know that everyone’s Instagram is a big fat exaggeration of their real lives). I wash my make up off, get into bed, open tweeter and vent my beef before going to sleep.
My point here is if you are so stressed out that you plan a night on the town, there is no possible way you would just forget about everything. This girl spent all her money buying ‘I don’t care what’, realized she had no change left and thought she would fool us with her little ‘movie night’ lie. See where I’m going with this?
Rich friends are not overly sensitive. They never take things too personal. Snobby comments are considered relatable and mean comments are considered jokes. With them, ‘It’s never that serious’. Check out my illustration of the Rich Friend Vs. Budget Buddy.
Rich friends don’t get you into trouble. If anything they bail you out of trouble. This one time my mother picked me up from High School and on the way out we met one of my classmates who was about to take a bus home. Of course my mother offered to give her a ride. We’d just completed exam week and had our grades…yes she asked to check her grades too. I was mad because she had performed better than me. Actually not because she had performed better than me, but because my mother was going to realize, and then start scolding me because I’m a very inconsiderate and ungrateful child, my friend doesn’t even have the privilege of her parents picking her up, I have that privilege and many more, but I can’t even be thankful enough to try and be the best in class. This girl who wasn’t even my friend like that, was now going to hear my mother curse me out the whole ride to her house, then tell the whole class the story and that was going to be very contradictory with the stories about my fancy lifestyle that I had been lying to my friends about.
However, if everyone was in their “own ride”, none of this drama would have had a witness, I would have gone to school the next day straight faced and told my friends my mum was ‘super chill’ about my grades…you see how y’all do me?
A lot of people get caught up in the stereotype that people that come from wealthy backgrounds are arrogant. Sometimes its true but hey most people that act like a bitch, rich or not, have a lot they are dealing with on the inside that they are not so proud to show. So all this build up of anger and hurt, results into them being mean to other people. In my opinion, most rich folk are the coolest, most down to earth people. They are always up for that quick road trip. In fact if you want some real ‘Thug Life” friends who don’t sit around and hate on other people all the time, get some rich friends. You will be surprised that all they really talk about is general ‘normal people’ stuff and not how much money they have. They are satisfied with their lives so there’s no need to compete. Till next time! –BFab.