You don’t look like a Muslim! A statement I get almost every time someone attempts to dig deeper into the origins and interpretations of my name, Mahbuba. I get it, I don’t cover my hair, but then again, since when were our religious preferences determined by our appearances and not by our faith and practices. Just because I don’t cover my hair, doesn’t mean I’m not religious. Perhaps if you had taken the time to ask if I pray, and not quickly come to the judgment that I don’t, simply because you’re admiring my locks, you would have known that my “Hijab” is actually in the car…very accessible when time for prayer arrives.
Let’s be honest, the topic of dressing generally, is a very very veryyy debatable topic. Not just for Muslim women, but for different people all over the world. And for the record, every time someone comes up to me trying to talk sleek about why my head isn’t covered, I don’t even turn it into an argument, because I am “fully” aware that it’s a better “look” for a Muslim woman to cover up. But get this! I said it’s a “better look”…and not, “it makes them a better Muslim.”
Perhaps if I was in another life, I would cover my hair. But guess what, I’m in this life! I love my natural fro, I loooove box braids, and when I am a bride you better “believe”, I will be wearing some celebrity worthy weave. It’s my decision, I made it and I am fully aware of it. So thanks, but No Thanks!
“I have seen people who look religious but are very far from it and I have seen others who look far from it yet they are religious.”
Unfortunately, this is not a post about how to dress. This is a post about “PRETENDERS!” whether you are Muslim, or Catholic, or a Jew, or a Seventh-day Adventist, we all know that person, actually “people” who are sooooo religious, are always the first to arrive at the place of worship, never miss a prayer, are quick to judge people who are not as “holy as they are” but when it comes down to their day to day practices and personalities, they are very depraved people with evil motives and untamed morals.
They talk ill about everyone, their conversations are filled with negativity, they’re rarely happy for others, and they never want anyone to get ahead of them or achieve success, and feel that it’s their solemn duty to look for the wrong in everything and smash anyone who attempts to borrow their shine. Right now, I know you’re nodding your head in agreement, thinking about that leader of the “Women of God something something Association” who behaves like this.
I could pose a question and ask, “Why do you eat breakfast?” one person will say, “Because its morning and I’m hungry.” Another person will say, “Breakfast is a great kick start for energy, for your day.” See, the body uses your food as a source of energy to get your system up and running, and your brain thinking. That’s why people who have breakfast, or go for a morning workout tend to be more alert. Their bodies, did not gradually get into the groove of the day, they started off strong.
The thing about breakfast is that, it’s always been there, we have breakfast every day. And because it has become such a regular part of our lifestyle, we don’t sit down to actually think about the importance of having breakfast, and its impact on our day. We have breakfast, then go on about our lives.
Here’s another question, “Why do you Pray?” Every human that has ever attempted to pray will ace the answer to this question. Here are my answers, probably very similar to yours. First and foremost, I pray to thank God for everything. After thanking, I start apologizing for the wrong I did…knowingly and unknowingly. Finally, I pray to beg…Simple!
People might sugarcoat it in all kinds of ways with all their fancy vocabulary, but truth is, it comes down to those three things. Here’s the real thought though. Why are you really praying? What is inspiring you, to get into a state of mediation and connect with a higher power?
Are you praying because its Sunday at 10 O’clock and service has started, or maybe it’s Friday, and Muslim Juma prayers are proceeding. Are you praying because it’s Christmas, and “everyone, has got to see this dress!” Or maybe because the person feeding you and paying your bills is praying and you better be in that prayer circle or find a new sponsor. And then there’s my personal favorite, are you praying, “To show people that you are praying?”
Prayer has always been there. If you ask me, I think prayer has become just like breakfast. We pray because we have always prayed. And because prayer has been an obvious part of our lives for so long, we tend to brush it off as “another thing we do.” So we pray and then get on with our lives, without thinking about if we are actually applying our prayers to our lives.
We pray for forgiveness, yet resent and despise the ones that hurt us.
We pray to love, but look down on sinners.
We pray for wisdom, but advance to judge from the exterior.
We pray for wealth, and loathe the rich.
We pray for happiness, and then question the brightness of the light, without checking to make sure “We” opened all the windows.
We pray for peace, and then find humor in violence that isn’t affecting our routine…it’s not my country, so it’s not my problem.
We pray…and then go on about our lives, without placing our prayers in thought and applying them into our daily lives.
Rather the man that silently meditates in prayer once in a while. But for that one time, is truly thankful, is truly sorry, and genuinely has the belief that he will get what he asks for. He gets up, knowing that his request has been accepted, and evolves, appreciating how lucky he is for what he has received, knowing that he is free of sin and knowing that more good is coming to him. That is the man we all need to become.
I love you for reading…xoxo, Buba.